4. Frequent Flasher. This reactive individual is a fiery flame thrower who's quick to be triggered. The "Flasher" doesn't just expose himself but he is often feeling exposed as well. I've labeled this explosive type the "HE man." Driving this aggressive, impatient, hyper person are two underlying complexes, which are thinly disguised with sparks and smoke. The first is the "H" type, where the letter "H" stands for "Humiliation." Due to often thinking and feeling rejected, or feeling shown up, and deep-seated unworthiness, this type of person (whether man or woman) explodes with anger. Again, that ager is seated in feeling less than and trying to cover it up rather than realizing and dealing directly with the underlying feelings.
"E" is for "Emptiness," brought on by separation anxiety and feelings of abandonment whenever they feel threatened, which can be often. (Again, please, I don't discriminate against men or women, because they both can display these patterns. A HE man personality type can be either male or female.)
There's hope for both these types, if they can be led to see their patterns and acknowledge their problematic style. I recall a US State Department manager who finally realized he had to control his temper tantrums. He came up with this strategy: in the middle of a typical, increasingly heated blood-starting-to-boil meeting, Mr. Manager would suddenly announce, "Excuse me, I just remembered, I need to photocopy some documents. I'll be back in five minutes." He'd leave his startled antagonist, walk outside or find a deserted office or bathroom, shout some expletives, and then return. Now he could deliver his anger in an adult manner.
5. The Holy Smolder. Some people try holding back their anger, being aware of their Mount St. Helens potential. Others feel a show of anger is a weakness; either you've allowed others to get to you or it's a sign of your being out of control. With this type of rigid and righteous thinking, there is no need to wonder why some folks are early candidates for heart attacks. In fact, much research has shown that people who tend to hold their rage inside often do have heart attacks. Plus, common psychotherapy for heart atta...